Modesty, Really!?

20/03/16 14:54- 16:30

The word springs to mind Nuns in Habits and the awful floral skirt and blouse combinations my Grandmother used to wear. But does this word actually mean anything to us Ladies and Gents born after 1920?

        Now before I begin, I would like to make something clear, my definition of Modesty is-

-The way in which the Lord call you to dress and act to glorify him.-

This is very much a personal exploration by which as children of God we must discover his plan and purpose of each and every one of our lives. The Lord may call one woman to wear nothing but skirts and cover her head in prayer, while calling another to change in little more than putting a camisole on under a V-neck sweater.  But this is the true beauty of our Christian faith. That we all have a unique and hand written relationship with God, with different paths and stories.

I began to really study the ideas around modesty after becoming borderline obsessed with the documented lives of the Duggar family, shown in the TV show '19 Kids and Counting.' If you have never come across the show, it focuses on Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar as they raise their 19 children for Christ. The family's openness to the world/camera about topics such as Modesty, relationships and prayer really struck a nerve with me as I had never received any spiritual guidance on these matters,

This spurred me to research via the internet and books the topic of Modesty. Leslie Ludy's book 'Set-Apart Femininity' opened my eyes to the idea that the modesty of your body is just as important as the modesty of your heart and soul, IE keeping our deepest desires and feelings for Christ and our future spouse only.

Leslie also uses the idea of 1 Corinthians 6:19 (do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?) to explain how we should like the Jewish people of Palestine, reserve certain 'Courts' of our heart for limited admittance.

She spoke of how we should be wary as women of allowing our male friends into certain 'courts' as it can lead to problems with relationships and ultimately lead to disheartenment.

Leslie encouraged us as Set-Apart women to build up the walls of our Temple and repair all breaches in the walls EG anything that draws us away from God. This could range from negative relationships, ungodly music, bad habits etc. With all this mind the main message comes right from our Lord-

-'Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life'-
Proverbs 4:23

It could be very easy to try and write a formula for modest living. Trust me I know how as humans we long for black and white rules.

But our God is not monochrome. Just look out the window and you can see he created every animal, every plant ,every one of us was uniquely woven in our Mother's womb (Psalm 139:13) by our Creator.

The Lord wants us all to ultimately search for him not in the wilderness but in the depths of our being, within put hearts. He wants us to talk to him, consult him day in day out, and be mindful of our motivations in everything we do. Including the way we dress.

Accepting that the Lord has a role to play in your life whether it be as fundamental as accepting him as your Savour or as far along as looking at modesty the first step is to hand it all over to him. To surrender our worries, stresses, faults and insecurities over to our Father. To kneel at the feet of Jesus and let him take control. Our Lord promises us in scripture that he will give his Wisdom to us, all we need to do is ask...

'If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.' - James 1:5

The word 'reproach' used here comes from the Greek word 'oneidizo' which originally referred to acting in a juvenile or immature way and evolved into a word for mocking or insulting. This suggests that God will not punish or hold our faults against us but will cover us with his Wisdom no matter what we have done.

So I urge you to consider your personal modesty and ask yourself a few questions:

Do the clothes I wear or the way I act look to Glorify God? Or do they look to attract the attention of others?

If the Lord came today, would I feel comfortable in front of him in these clothes, acting in this way?

Do I spend more time on my hair and make-up than I do in prayer or Bible Study?


Heavenly Father,

I thank you for the unique traits and looks you gave all your children. I thank you for the Wisdom that you grant to all who ask for it and I pray that you may pour your guidance upon us, those who are seeking to be ever in your presence and pleasing to you. Help us to see your great plan for our lives and our time. That we may be all for you!

In Jesus name, Amen

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